In detail, she described when, what and how much she was eating each day. It sounded exhausting.
As she spoke, I immediately remembered why I dislike diets so much.
Whether it involves counting points, counting calories, food-combining or eliminating entire food groups — all diets seem to create the same effect — obsession over food.
That makes no sense.
If you want to eat less, how is spending MORE time thinking about food going to help?
Because when you think about it — for us over-eaters, it’s the OVER-eating that’s the problem. It’s that enough is never enough. So how would spending more time thinking about food help us to eat less?
Don’t Think of the Italian Flag
It’s like telling yourself, every five minutes, “Don’t think of the Italian flag. Whatever you do, don’t think about its stripes of green, white and red.”
If you don’t want to think about the Italian flag, it would seem the most effective way would be to stop obsessing over it and start living. Pretty obvious, right? So why don’t we get this when it comes to the diet mentality?
The thing is, the reason we struggle with OVER-eating isn’t about the food anyway.
We’re hungry. Oh yes, starving…
But not for food. Our tummies are actually over-filled.
We’re starving for life!
Honor Your Cravings
Each of us was born with uniqueness. We all crave different experiences. When we don’t honor those cravings we try to fill the void with something else, like food.
Luckily, even if you’ve used food to fill the void up to this point, it’s not too late.
The first step in making a shift is determining your individual desires. In other words, how do you want to feel?Take your time with this.
Once you determine how you want to feel, you can deliberately think the thoughts and take the actions that create that feeling.
I call this process feeding your passions. It is yummy. And it is the KEY to lasting weight loss.
Without this ingredient, weight loss will seem like a never-ending struggle.
So Happy You Almost Forget to Eat
When you feed your passions — that’s when you feel most alive. Coincidentally (or not) it’s also the time when overeating usually isn’t a problem.
I bet you’ve experienced that at least a few times in your life. Think about it. Have you ever been so happy/excited/blissful that you could barely remember to eat?
That’s what I’m talking about. That’s the missing ingredient, in action!
And that feeling never comes from obsessing over the latest diet.
Remember the following 2 questions:
- What feeling have you been craving?
- What thoughts and actions would start creating that desired feeling in your life?
Once you begin acting from that place — that’s where you begin feeling a shift — no obsessing needed!
Sending lots of love.