Confession time: forgiveness has been one of my toughest lessons to learn. In fact, I still haven’t exactly forgiven everyone in my life. (But I’ve found a way to let go of the pain when forgiveness feels unattainable. And I’m sharing because it just might help you too.)
For decades, the inability to forgive left me feeling angry and stuck. I couldn’t move forward because I couldn’t get over my past.
I knew something had to change, and I knew it had to be me. But I didn’t know how.
I studied forgiveness. I talked about it. I prayed about it. I even begged God to show me the way.
I eventually learned to forgive myself. Instrumental in this shift around my own forgiveness, were the words of Maya:
“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.”
~ Maya Angelou
But forgiving others was still a struggle.
How do you forgive when it’s not okay?
My sticking point continually came back to feeling like forgiveness was saying, “What you did to me was okay.” [Read more…]