For a woman to truly step into her power there is one behavior she must give up.
It’s not always easy, because it can feel justified. Chances are, this behavior even provides some sense of comfort.
But with it, nothing ever really changes.
I’m talking about playing the blame game. It’s the behavior of blaming circumstances, individuals, experiences, etc for your present situation.
The problem is …
You can only change what you’re willing to claim. (Click to Tweet)
Are you unknowingly playing the blame game?
Ask yourself the following two questions:
- What in your life would you like to change?
- Why hasn’t that change happened yet?
Is it simply that you’re in the early stages of change? Or, is there something else?
When I mentioned “something else” in the previous sentence, what popped into your mind? Hint: there’s a good chance that your thoughts about the “something else” are the exact reason why change isn’t happening.
Are they the blame game kind of thoughts?
Perhaps you’ve told yourself one of the following:
- I just have bad genes
- My friends/family wouldn’t approve
- I wasn’t taught the skills I’d need to do that
- I don’t have the time
- It’s my parents’ fault
- I never learned good habits
- I didn’t get enough education
- I had a bad childhood
- I would, but my partner doesn’t support me
- It’s too late
Do any of the above sound familiar? Or maybe you have another version.
Is it true?
If you desire change, it’s important to recognize any barriers you might be creating by giving away your power through playing the blame game.
Ask yourself if your reason for not creating the changes you desire is absolutely true.
Example: Maybe you want to improve your relationship with food but you’re telling yourself you didn’t learn good food habits in childhood. Perhaps you witnessed a parent struggle in their relationship with food.
In this example, you would ask yourself the following:
Is it absolutely true that my experiences in childhood have to affect my relationship with food even in adulthood?
If the answer is “no” that can cause a shift in your thinking, which can lead to a change in your actions. Do you see the window for change this creates?
By refusing to assign blame, you suddenly get all your power back!
… And from that place, you can become the women who begins to create the changes she desires.