I bet you’ve had the experience of coming face-to-face with one of your favorite temptations, struggling with whether you should or shouldn’t indulge.
All the while wrestling with the nagging question, “Is this truly a self-loving action, or am I just giving in?”
At the height of my emotional eating, that was one of my biggest struggles. I questioned whether I was being kind to myself, or just making excuses. This question came up around food all the time. But it also came up around alcohol, shopping, etc. These days, many of my clients now come to me with the same question.
Do you ask it too?
Luckily, there’s a simple way to know the truth.
And it takes just a question or two.
Love or something else?
Whether you’re considering if you should buy the expensive pair of shoes, or questioning if you should have a second piece of birthday cake, ask yourself the following …
- Does this action feel like love?
If the answer is NO: this may not be aligned with your core values.
If the answer is YES: you’re halfway there. Proceed to the next question:
- Are you relatively certain you’ll still feel good about this decision tomorrow?
If the answer is NO: you may want to reconsider this action.
If the answer is YES: it sounds like this is an aligned action that’s being taken from a place of love.
It comes down to one thing:
True self-love feels good in the moment.
And it feels good in the days, weeks, and months that follow.
Imagine no longer waking up with regrets over the previous day’s decisions.
Choose actions that are aligned with your core values and are taken from a place of love and that could be your reality.
Pause to ask yourself the above questions whenever necessary, and use their answers as your guide.