While driving home after a stressful day or a long week, while glancing at my reflection in the rear view mirror, I’d often whisper three words to myself.
They were the same words each time.
I wish I could tell you those words were ANY of the following ::
- I love you.
- You are gorgeous.
- Damn, you’re good.
- You kinda rock.
- You are amazing!
The words I whispered each time were, “You deserve it.”
I know – that doesn’t sound so bad. Right? But I wasn’t referring to scheduling some much-needed self-care or a night out with friends. Nope!
Instead I was talking myself into why I DESERVED bags of fast food or piles of candy.
I already knew how the story would play out. Whatever I brought home, I’d gobble up. It would happen so quickly I’d barely even taste the food. The rest of the evening would be spent wallowing in a depression over my lack of self- control, the pain of my over-stuffed stomach and growing mountains of guilt.
Each time I acted out in this way, it brought misery.
Then one day I realized… I DIDN’T deserve this.
I deserved BETTER.
So do you.
So, what messages do you regularly tell yourself? And is your self-talk serving your highest good?