Oh if I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard that!
Let’s just be honest here. Loving yourself ONLY WHEN you lose weight is conditional love…nothing more.
Do you do this too?
Do you place conditions on self-love?
Although it may sound harmless enough, this could actually be the thing that’s keeping you stuck.
It Works Like This
Thoughts create feelings. (That’s why we feel good when we think of fun times.)
Then, feelings cause actions. (This is why we smile when we’re happy or move away from spiders that scare us.)
What You’re Really Saying
When you think “I’ll love myself when I’m thin,” you’re essentially telling yourself “I don’t love you right now.”
In most people, that kind of thought feels downright lousy. What feelings does it bring up for you?
When I personally think that particular thought, I experience the feeling of sadness.
Feelings Cause Actions
If the thought “I don’t love you right now,” brings up sadness (or anxiety, anger, etc…) for you, what kind of action do you think you will take from that sort of feeling?
For many people struggling with weight, negative feelings can lead straight to the action of eating when not hungry or eating past fullness, in an attempt to distract themselves from feeling hurt.
Isn’t that the opposite of what you’re trying to achieve?
To Sum Up
- Think a negative thought.
- That negative thought causes a negative feeling.
- The negative feeling can actually be a trigger for the action of overeating.
In other words, conditional love often keeps you stuck in the very place you’re trying so hard to leave.
The wonderful thing is – you can flip this whole scenario around very quickly.
Change your thoughts.
Love yourself right now. Unconditionally.
It may take some practice at first. But I promise you….it feels so much better.